Zoo Siab
- Kawm paub txhais cov lus ntawm cov dev
- Puas zoo los puag tus dev?
- Qhia kev hlub yam tsis muaj kev nyuab siab rau nws
Peb hlub peb cov plaub muag heev uas peb qee zaum xav khawm lawv ib yam li peb xav tau lwm tus phooj ywg lossis tus neeg hauv tsev neeg, rau lawv qhov no tsis zoo li koj xav. Thaum rau peb nws yog kev piav tes piav tes ntawm kev hlub, rau cov dev nws yog tus taw uas thaiv lawv thiab ua rau lawv ntxhov siab.
Koj tau pom tseeb tias koj tus dev tau sim khiav lossis tig nws lub taub hau thaum koj sim khawm nws. Lub sijhawm ntawd nws yuav tsum tau nug nws tus kheej vim li cas ho tsis ua kuv tus dev nyiam kom tau puag? Ntawm PeritoAnimal peb yuav muab koj cov ntaub ntawv koj xav paub me ntsis zoo dua txog tus cwj pwm tsiaj thiab qhia koj li cas koj tuaj yeem khawm nws yam tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab.
Kawm paub txhais cov lus ntawm cov dev
Vim tias lawv tsis tuaj yeem sib txuas lus hais lus, dev siv lub suab ntsiag to, lub cev ua haujlwm uas pab lawv qhia lawv tus kheej ua ntej ntawm lwm tus dev, tab sis uas peb yog tus tswv yuav tsum muaj peev xwm txhais tau.
Thaum koj khawm tus dev nws tuaj yeem qhia ob lossis ntau lub cim uas peb qhia koj hauv qab no. Thaum lawv ua ib yam ntawm cov no, lawv hais, hauv lawv tus kheej txoj kev, tias lawv tsis nyiam raug puag. Qhov teeb meem yog qee zaum nws tuaj yeem hais tau ntau heev tias nws tom, vim li ntawd nws zoo dua los hwm koj qhov chaw yog tias ib qho ntawm cov cim no tau qhia:
- muab koj lub pob ntseg tso
- tig lub qhov ncauj
- Zam koj lub qhov muag
- sim tig koj nraub qaum
- tig koj lub cev
- kaw koj ob lub qhov muag me ntsis
- yaim qhov ncauj tas li
- sim khiav
- quaj
- qhia hniav
Puas zoo los puag tus dev?
Psychologist Stanley Coren luam tawm ib tsab xov xwm hauv Psychology Niaj hnub no hu ua Cov ntaub ntawv hais tias "Tsis txhob khawm tus dev!" hais tias ua tau zoo, dev tsis nyiam nws thaum lawv puag. Qhov tseeb, nws nthuav tawm 250 cov duab tsis raug ntawm tib neeg puag lawv cov dev thiab hauv 82% ntawm lawv cov dev pom qee qhov cim ntawm kev khiav tawm uas peb tau tham ua ntej.
Coren tau piav qhia tias cov tsiaj no muaj cov tshuaj tiv thaiv sai heev thiab muaj peev xwm ua haujlwm tau zoo, thiab lawv yuav tsum muaj peev xwm khiav tawm thaum lawv xav tias muaj kev phom sij lossis raug kaw. Qhov no txhais tau tias thaum koj khawm lawv, lawv hnov xauv thiab daig, tsis muaj lub peev xwm no khiav tawm yog tias muaj qee yam tshwm sim. Yog li lawv thawj qhov tshuaj tiv thaiv yog khiav thiab lawv ua tsis tau nws yog qhov qub rau qee tus dev sim ua tom kom tau dawb.
Qhia kev hlub yam tsis muaj kev nyuab siab rau nws
Dr saib xyuas koj tus dev yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws uas koj tuaj yeem ua tau ntxiv dag zog rau koj daim ntawv cog lus, tab sis ua nws hauv txoj kev uas tsis ua rau koj ntshai, ntxhov siab lossis ntxhov siab yog ib ntawm tsib txoj kev ywj pheej ntawm tsiaj noj qab haus huv.
Koj tuaj yeem hnia nws kom so, txhuam nws cov plaub lossis ua si nrog nws los qhia nws txoj kev hlub rau koj. Ua raws cov ntsiab lus no kom tsis txhob nug koj tus kheej, vim li cas kuv tus dev tsis nyiam puag?
- Mus cuag nws nrog kev ntsiag to thiab ua kom maj mam txav kom nws tsis txhob ceeb toom.
- Cia nws pom nws mus li cas kom nws tsis txhob ntshai.
- Cia nws hnov koj txhais tes, nrog xib teg ntawm koj txhais tes qhib.
- Zaum ntawm koj ib sab ntsiag to.
- Xyaum ua haujlwm sib txawv ntawm lub cev, ib txwm zuj zus thiab pab nws nrog khoom plig yog tias tsim nyog, yog li nws tuaj yeem koom nrog nws txhais tes nrog qee yam zoo.
- Maj mam muab koj txhais caj npab tso rau ntawm koj lub duav thiab muab nws npog. Koj tseem tuaj yeem rub nws kom nyob ntsiag to, yam tsis nyem nws.
